It might be easy to default to “no” when people ask you to do something that might seem overly challenging, or if you’re a bit strapped for time. But consider the best and worst that could happen as a result. And ultimately, how it 𝗺𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 make people feel about you…but also, how it 𝗺𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 be self-limiting for you?
Getting into the habit of saying “no” has a direct effect on your perceived value. But more importantly, you could be training yourself to NOT learn….and NOT grow.
As an alternative to saying, “NO”, to the challenging request… try, “WHY NOT?” Consider the best and worst that can happen as a result. How does it make people feel about your relationship… and your ability? How might this mold your behavior toward curiosity, learning, and growth?
Now consider what “YES” can do for you. Clearly, it’s unlikely to say “YES” to everything but the answer could come with some “qualifiers” that could solve the problem to “get to a yes”. How does a “YES” make people feel about your relationship and your ability?
Finally, consider how saying “YES” can separate you from those around you. It can help you learn. “YES” can empower you. How might this change your behavior and ultimately the belief in your own capabilities…and the path to your own aspirational goals?
“YES” is not about never pushing back… It’s about INVESTING in yourself and those around you. It’s about being a LEADER.
You might notice that a lot of the leaders in business and in life started by saying, “Why not?” … which led to “YES” … which led to SUCCESS.
About the Author: John grew up in Schenectady, NY & received a scholarship to Norwich Academy. He began his broadcast management career at WOR, learning spoken word marketing from the best in the business with a specialty in financial and long form. John managed broadcast sales for some of the best known sports teams in the world, at the most legendary stations. However his true passion is in the world of direct response advertising to baby boomers and their parents. In this space he has worked with some of the best brands in America. John lives in Boston with his wife, Melissa who is also a broadcast executive, and French Bulldogs Lou and Sal.
